What should I tell my child?

Introduction

Parents often ask us, "What should I tell my child?" when visiting a psychologist for the first time. The best explanation is likely to vary depending on the child's age and the purpose of your visit.

This article guides how to approach this conversation with children of different ages.

Very Young Children (1 to 3 years)

For very young children, a simple explanation is often sufficient. You might say something like, "We are going to see [psychologist's name] so that you can play and have a chat." Answer any additional questions honestly and calmly.

Young Children (2 to 8 years)

When talking to young children, it's important to differentiate between visiting a psychologist and going to the doctor. Make it clear that there are no physical examinations and that there will never be any needles, as this is often a concern for children in this age group.

Let them know that they will be talking to someone very nice who helps lots of children. Emphasise that they will probably play games or do arts and crafts during their visit, which can help make the experience sound more appealing.

Older Children (9 to 12 years)

As children progress through later primary school, they become more aware of how others perceive them and maybe warier of visiting a psychologist. It's crucial to normalise the experience by explaining that many people seek this type of help, and that it's as common as getting help from a doctor for a physical ailment.

Remind them that their information will be kept private: the psychologist is not allowed to share it with parents, teachers, or doctors without their permission (unless there's a risk of harm). This assurance can help alleviate any concerns about privacy or confidentiality.

Teenagers (13 to 17 years)

Some teenagers may be self-referred, while others might resist visiting a psychologist. Either way, it's essential that they feel supported rather than pushed. Listen to your teen's concerns without lecturing in return.

Emphasise that they will have control over the therapy process and information sharing (unless there's a risk of harm). Please encourage them to meet the psychologist before deciding not to attend, as this initial meeting can often alleviate their concerns.

General Advice for All Ages

Remember that if you've been prompted to make an appointment, it's likely because your child's behaviour has been challenging in some way. It's crucial that they don't feel that coming to the clinic is a form of punishment or something to be ashamed of.

Remain positive and send the message that this visit will be helpful and enjoyable. Please help them to feel that you and the psychologist are on their team, working together to support them.

Preparing for the Visit

To help your child feel more comfortable about their upcoming visit, you can show them pictures of our clinics on our website. This gives them a better idea of what to expect when arriving, potentially reducing anxiety about the unknown.

Conclusion

Discussing a visit to a psychologist with your child can seem daunting, but with the right approach, you can help them feel comfortable and even excited about the experience.

Remember to tailor your explanation to your child's age and understanding, always maintaining a positive and supportive attitude. If you have any more questions about preparing your child for their visit, feel free to contact our clinic for additional guidance.